Warning Signs That Your Marriage Is Hanging By Threads

It's quite normal, and natural, for every couple to argue. When a couple gets married, although everyone wants a happy ever after, this is hardly ever the case.

According to psychotherapist Ross Grossman, married couples would most often argue about their financial status, their sex life with one another, and whose voice has the most power in the home.

It's easy to get too caught up in life that many fail to realize or analyze signs that show that they are in a bad marriage. So, keep an eye out for these signs and decide whether you want to sign that divorce paper.

2. No compliments or appreciation

According to Grossman, a relationship can only last when there is an exchange of so-called "love deposits."

This can mean a gift, a compliment, a pat on the back for a job well done... One should always look to show their appreciation to their partner, while also missing no chance to praise them for their beauty.

As a matter of fact, Grossman believes that for each critical opinion or argument you give your spouse, there should be 5 love deposits in return. A lack of these forms of affection can lead to your marriage spiraling downwards.

3. The fear of confrontation

A strong marriage doesn't always have to be happy and sunshine for years on end. Sometimes, a fight just cannot help but break loose. However, Grossman says it is unhealthy to hold back your side of the argument because you feel like it would affect your marriage.

The reluctance to speak your mind can be a sign that your partner has an anger issue, and you feel the need to not hurt his feelings, or he might hurt you. Either way, you're suffering.

4. You never take responsibility

Don't victimize yourself. If your partner offers a critique, take it in and reflect on yourself. If you think he's wrong, say something about it. More often than not, however, you would rather fish for excuses and play the innocent victim so that our partner will back off.

This doesn't resolve any problem, and it shows that you are not willing to even consider taking responsibility for your mistakes. Although it is perfectly understandable to defend yourself if you’re feeling attacked, this approach can only end badly. Instead, Grossman suggests setting up a list of your boundaries with your partner, telling him in detail what you can and cannot tolerate.

5. You can't forgive

We all make mistakes from time to time. Nevertheless, if you feel like you cannot forgive, your marriage might be in a lot of danger. No matter the magnitude, most of the time hearing your life-long partner saying "I'm sorry" should quench your anger.

According to Grossman, you should not reject his attempts to fix the problem and welcome his efforts of redeeming himself. It’s hard to say you’re sorry. And it can be even harder when someone doesn’t accept your apology. So stay steady and calm, manage your emotions of rejection and hurt, and show your apology through consistent actions.