I Can't Get An Erection After My Wife Left For Another Man 2 Years Ago. What Should I Do?

Salena Harshini |Jun 12, 2020

I couldn't understand why this is happening to me when I have tried to be a good man with both ex-wife and girlfriend now. I can't get an erection in bed as I was obsessed with the past and everyone in the village knew my history. Please help!

I can't get an erection cuz everyone knows my wife dumped me

Two years ago, my ex-wife left me to be with the man she met at her high school reunion. Both of them are 32 years old now while I am 35. When I and she got divorced, everyone around the neighborhood was gossiping about it for months, even my two kids were questioned a lot at their school.

The divorce broke me. I was obsessed with what people said behind my back. I had a hard time dealing with it while my kids also had to move between my house and my ex-wife's houses all the time. She has now settled down with the guy she cheated on me with.

Well, actually I have met someone else for a few months now. She is beautiful, passionate, and considerate. She also loves my children and sympathizes with my past.

Erection
My wife cheated on me, dumped me and now I can't have sex

But the thing is I find out that I am not good at the intimate things like I was before. I am not saying I was a pro in the past, but at least I was better than now.

I cannot get an erection. Even when I can, it does not last for enough time. I have done everything I can to get the guy up and my girlfriend also tries to help, but it does not work.

Although she says it does not matter, it still troubles me a lot. I want to show her I can be a great lover and give her a good time. If this state does not stop soon, I’m afraid I will lose her.

What can I do about this? What do you think is the reason for my case? Thank you so much.

What is the advice?

We appreciate that you have reached for help, and we hope these will help you in some way.

Your erection problems may directly result from a physical cause. Below are a number of probable reasons why you can’t make your body work the way you want:

  • Drinking too much or using excessive recreational drugs
  • Being exhausted
  • Smoking
  • Being overweight and not exercising
  • Being under stress
  • Being affected by side effects of prescription medication (specifically, anti-depressants often affect the erection; so you should ask for a substitute)
  • Having a medical condition like high blood pressure or diabetes

You can check if you are under any of those cases. If you do, cut down on it and see if there is any improvement.

Indian Couple
Do not let the past and pressure haunt you

Also, you have probably heard about “performance anxiety”. This term refers to men who get so anxious about not doing well in bed that they fail to erect. It leads to a confidence crisis and can be cured by an understanding partner.

In this case, you have already had a sympathetic partner who loves and understands you. I know the split broke your heart and maybe affected your confidence, but do not let it ruin your present and future.

Without worries about intercourse, take sex backs to basics. You should focus on kissing, caressing, massage, and pleasuring one another. Then, you will surely find the erections springing back.

>>> Editor's pick for you: Exercise To Last Longer In Bed | Easiest And Quick Tips To Improve Sexual Performance For India Men

Dear Starbiz readers!

From now on, you can share with us your stories so you are heard and advised. We will do our best to build a healthy community during this pandemic time which cause people so many troubles and stress. Together, we can get over this tough period.

Also, to help the 'character' in published story overcome their problem, do not hesitate to leave your comments for them. You can log in with your social account or just type your nickname. We guarantee your information will be kept private.

If you have a story to share with Starbiz, please send it to our email at: Starbizsharingcorner@gmail.com!

Comments

Sort by Newest | Popular

Next Story

Read more

Sushmita Sen Old Pics And Her Untold Miss World Stories Would Make Your Jaw Drop

Bollywoods News |Oct 21, 2020, 12:46

Sushmita Sen Old Pics And Her Untold Miss World Stories Would Make Your Jaw Drop

With unlimited talents and a good heart, Sushmita Sen has won the adoration of so many people. These old pictures of her speak volumes about her journey and you will be glad to see them.

Boris Johnson Wants To Resign As UK Prime Minister After He Couldn't Make Ends Meet With Low Salary

Trending Worldwide |Oct 20, 2020, 10:11

Boris Johnson Wants To Resign As UK Prime Minister After He Couldn't Make Ends Meet With Low Salary

Once in a blue moon, a Prime Minister of the United Kingdom plans to resign due to his low salary. That’s exactly the case of Boris Johnson with his £150k income.

Pictures Of Mom-To-Be Anushka Sharma Flaunting Her Baby Bump And Looking Gorgeous As Always

Bollywoods News |Oct 21, 2020, 7:42

Pictures Of Mom-To-Be Anushka Sharma Flaunting Her Baby Bump And Looking Gorgeous As Always

Post the pregnancy announcement, Anushka Sharma continues to steal the headlines with her mesmerizing photos showing her baby bump. See her latest pictures!

Palak Tiwari: Sweta Tiwari Daughter Movie, Instagram Info To See Prior To Her Bollywood Debut

Bollywoods News |Oct 21, 2020, 15:19

Palak Tiwari: Sweta Tiwari Daughter Movie, Instagram Info To See Prior To Her Bollywood Debut

A new force of Bollywood is coming and it's no other than Sweta Tiwari's daughter Palak Tiwari! See her new movie updates, hot photos and more here.

Bigg Boss Kannada All Season Contestants – Who Are The Most Famous After The Show?

South Indian Stars |Oct 20, 2020, 9:26

Bigg Boss Kannada All Season Contestants – Who Are The Most Famous After The Show?

Come here and check full list of Bigg Boss Kannada all season contestants! While some names instantly rose to fame after the show, some seem to vanish out of this world.

Sun Or Rain? Karishma Tanna, Sara Gurpal & Janhvi Kapoor Tear Our Hearts Apart With Their Opposiste Styles

Hot Photos |Oct 20, 2020, 15:32

Sun Or Rain? Karishma Tanna, Sara Gurpal & Janhvi Kapoor Tear Our Hearts Apart With Their Opposiste...

Janhvi Kapoor, Karishma Tanna, and Sara Gurpal make it hard for fans to take sides whether who looks the best even with their contrast posing styles.