How To Balance Your Love Life And Social Relationship: Do Not Date More Than Once A Week!

Everybody was living the most beautiful days of their lives on the first days of a new relationship. All day long our minds are captivated with the image of those significant ones. Time seems to pass by so slowly until we meet again.

But, no matter how hard it is to wait for the loved one again, here is the new thing you should consider: You really ought to see your “significant friend” only once a week.

To have another date with the special person, you will find yourself rearrange all other plans you had made before for yourself or with other people. It feels total like you are stuck in quicksand - your whole world now surrounds that new person and you are purposely throwing friends and family away to feel lighter.

Quicksand is dangerous, but hard to be spotted out. And the moment you fall into one, as the love story and romance building up, your outside world ceases to matter. Your friends have no clue where have you disappeared to, and even yourself have no idea how to get out of it.

Mikaila M. is one of those who knows how that quicksand feels like. When she decided to spend her day with the new one instead of joining her friend on her birthday, she did not know how disappointed her friend was. It is the reason why when we first try a new match, we would want to keep your routine as normal as possible. This is not only for your own life’s sake but also for letting the new relationship grow naturally.

It sounds quite depressing so far, let’s take a look at how it’s going to save you from all the troubles. “I was caught in a cycle of losing my friends, family, and self whenever I entered a new relationship, so when I heard about this rule, I had to try it,” said Michelle T., 24, who is now in her second year of a relationship.

“It’s hard when you're forcing yourself to not hang out with the only person you can focus on, but it's helped me so much in thinking more clearly and picking up on things I didn’t like about them.”

Avoiding potential heartbreak

From Jennifer Silvershein: “If you’re able to keep the get-togethers to once a week, the intensity of something not working out will be lessened.” Instead of multiplying the risk by five times a week, you can only have to handle things when the relationship goes wrong by one.

Curiosity intensified

In facts, dating just once a week makes you have more things to share. The lesser you meet, the more you want to see the other. And when the day finally comes, it would be the best one every single time.

You don’t have to break your promises

You will assuredly hang out with the new lover; then you will have the full concentration to finish all other assignments. You, your friends, your coworkers, your loved one. Everybody wins.

More time to decide

Feelings are powerful, but can also be deceptive. Dating just once a week gives you more time to think before you feel too much. It provides more time to come to a wiser decision whether if this is indeed the one you are looking for.

But the question is, just how long is enough to carry out this once-a-week dating strategy? “When you get more comfortable into a relationship or habits are beginning to form over time, that’s the natural progression,” said Silverstein. Or let’s put it another way, you know when to move on when you are finally sure that this cannot be the quicksand for you anymore. Remember, the true one should be a part of your life, not your entire life.