Love Guru: 6 Things You Can Try To Cope With A Hard Breakup

A breakup brings all sort of negative and painful feelings, either to you, to them, or to both parties. If a breakup has you feeling lost and shattered, you might not be in the right mind to be making any decisions whatsoever.

And while it may feel like there's no end in sight to those gut-wrenching emotions, do not act recklessly as this will lead to some very bad situations, like a rebound with some random guy, or bad hookups that lead to months of wasted time.

However bad they are, a breakup might happen more commonly than you think. And if you don't want to repeat the same sad fate like last time, here are some strategies you can try out to get over the blues.

1. Should you keep in touch?

Whether or not the breakup was your call, cutting someone you've shared a bed with is really tough. But even after the hard part is over, it’s never as straight-forward as simply saying good-bye. In today’s world where social media rules, you might be tempted to go through your ex's timeline, and that isn't healthy.

A good tip is to stop using social media for a while and make a decision whether to keep in touch with him after you have had some time apart.

2. Mix-up your frequent places

Every couple has one or two places where they call favourites. Avoid these places at all cost. When you're trying to get over the emotions post-breakup, it's never wise to visit places of affection. We recommend picking a different grocery store, so you don't run into him awkwardly, and basically avoid any and all spots that are linked with him in any way.

3. Acceptance is a big part of coping

Do not try to get him back! The biggest mistake one can make after a split is trying to reconnect whatever you might have had. It's unhealthy, and frankly unfair to the other person if you keep telling yourself you can get him or her back.

The first step to moving on is accepting that your relationship has ended, and you can't do that if you keep looking back.

4. After you have accept the breakup, accept the emotions that come with it

The pain that comes from breaking up with someone you loved is no joke. So don't hold back. Accept the hurt, the sadness, and sometimes the numbness. You have to understand that if you can't grieve, you won't be able to heal.

Don't just throw yourself at work to ignore those feelings, but instead let them wash over you, and ride them like a wave. Once it is over, however long and painful it was, you will feel much better in the end.

5. Ask your friends for help

Sometimes, the emotions are too great to overcome on your own. This is when your friends come in. Talk to them, share your thoughts, cry to them on the phones for hours. You should always have someone you can lean on when times are tough. After all, that's what friends are for.

6. Do not change yourself

We've mentioned bad rebound. And many people have contemplated cutting their hair right after a breakup. Some even go as far as blaming themselves for what happened and tried to change whatever they thought caused the breakup.

Always keep in mind that there's nothing wrong with you. There are many factors to a relationship, not just you. There is plenty of fish in the sea, so don't let this one change who you are.