6 Signs Show You And Your Partner Are Not Going Along Well In Bed
Kimmy Karima|Oct 05, 2019, 21:00
Sex is a special way of expressing love. But since everyone is different in their preferences and even in their conceptions of sex, sometimes, you'll find yourself in such a dilemma: You're going well with your partner in love, but not in bed.
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When you find sex with your partner not so enjoyable, you may wonder if there's something wrong with you. No, no-one ever says that once you love someone, you really must enjoy having sex with that person.
So, don't question yourself anymore. Just read on to know if there are signs like below in your relationship, which means, you and your partner are in a lack of sexual compatibility.
Different perceptions of the importance of sex
You may see the incompatibility even before you get in bed with someone. Just via their thoughts and talks, you’ll maybe have a glimpse of how important sex is to them.
Sometimes, you can’t find common ground. Like when you believe that sex can help boost intimacy and keep love burning, but your partner doesn’t think highly of it and doesn’t think that it’s something necessary. Yes, that’s the first sign, which is mainly in the minds.
Different perceptions of how sex must be
Of course, you and your partner may have dissimilar preferences. That’s totally acceptable. But the incompatibility shows when there are dissimilarities in the ways you think about how often and how satisfying sex should be.
If one side thinks of sex as a routine and is willing to do it for a certain number of times per week, just for the sake of it, while the other side doesn’t need it regularly but wants each session to be really steamy, then that’s the bigger issue you should take care of.
Different levels of openness
Some people never mention anything related to sexuality, in or out of the bedroom. They perhaps don’t like it, or are too shy, or perceive that this is a too sensitive matter, or even are worried about what others would think of them.
But if their partners are open and want to improve their bedroom time by talking about how to have better sex, the problem of incompatibility may arise.
Different feelings when seeing something hot
Couples that are sexually compatible are often quite excited and feel comfortable when seeing a sex scene in a movie, or some erotic photos in a magazine.
They even like to discuss what they’re seeing. But if you and your partner seem to feel awkward or uncomfortable when seeing something hot, it’s the proof that you don’t share the same interest in sex, or don’t look at it from the same angle.
Different feelings about the other’s body
We all know that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. And that love goes much deeper than the outward appearance. But loving someone’s heart and soul is one thing, and loving their naked body is another.
While you may not expect that your partner has the body of a fitness model, you may not really enjoy having sex with someone with too bad a body either. That means, if one side in a relationship possesses a body that is much lower than the other side’s expectation, the sexual compatibility may not happen.
The indifference or avoidance
This may be the clearest and most dangerous sign. That’s when one of the two partners doesn’t feel like having sex with the other. Reasons have been told, excuses have been made. Sex is just the responsibility or an obligation.
It’s hard to tell what causes this situation because it’s not necessary that love is flying away. Maybe it’s just due to tiring workdays, or too much pressure in that period of life. But it also maybe because of some other unidentified reasons.
No matter what, it’s obvious that sexual compatibility doesn’t exist. If this is your case, which means you avoid sex with your partner, you should really take the time to find out the real cause to fix it as soon as possible. If you still want to be in love, of course.