6 Rules You Should Follow To Date Your Friend's Ex Without Sacrificing Your Friendship

Everyone knows that there is always an unspoken rule of girl code: It is not OK to date your friend's ex. You know this rule well, and you did not even plan it this way, but then you are into your bestie's former boyfriend. Now you have to face with a most unenviable predicament: Break up with him or put your friendship in jeopardy.

Do not panic. There are exceptions for any friendship rule, and falling in love with your friend's ex might be one of those. Here are 6 rules you should follow to make it right without sacrificing your friendship.

1. No Gossip

No one can deny this: Gossip is the best part of a friendship, especially when it comes to girls hanging out together. However, there are things that you need to keep secrets when you are now her ex's new girlfriend. Do not share the stories of her personal life with your boyfriend. The reverse is also true because your bestie clearly gets no interested in hearing the updates on his current sex life.

2. No Insult

It is alright to come to your boyfriend for a solution once you have some problems with your friend or vice versa. Nevertheless, do not try to bad-mouth one of them to the other. If you want to make it right, you should not take sides in their previous breakup and point out who is the villain. Let the past stay in the past.

3. No Comparisons

Do not ask your boyfriend silly questions such as, "Am I prettier than your ex?" or "Does she cook better than me?" Those questions already sound bad, but it will be even worse when the mentioned person is your bestie. Comparisons cannot help you maintain a healthy relationship, so do not seek out for them.

4. Have Faith

You have to trust your partner that he chooses you because he loves you, not because he temporarily wants to be with someone until his ex comes back. On the other hand, you also need to believe that your bestie is truly happy because you have found a guy you love, not trying to ruin your relationship. Control yourself and do not create more problems.

5. Do Not Be Nosy

You cannot help but feel curious about the reason that they broke up, craving to know the truth behind. However, you should resist the urge to ask those questions. Their past love is the story of two, and you cannot grill either of them on what had happened. Unless they do not mind sharing their matter, or else you can live better without knowing those details.

6. Stay Alert To Red Flags

Dating your friend's ex is not immoral, but is your boyfriend really worth it? If he seriously mistreated your bestie before, do not date him. Once you hang out with someone who had horribly treated your friend, it means that you do not think what he did to her was that bad. You might hurt your friend, so just walk away in these situations. There are still many good guys out there, do not waste your time on someone who has traumatized your bestie.